Yesterday I went out with my roommates. Over the course of the night one of them told me something sad that occurred in the morning in her life. I could see some of the pain as we talked. I thought that she had a lot of courage to go out with us that same day. It’s as rational as it gets. It makes a whole lot of sense that unwinding doing something unrelated will help you get over a bump faster. Although sometimes it can stem from a desire to forget about an event that is troubling you. That’s why it is important to give yourself some time alone with no distractions where you can delve on the feeling. Otherwise your need to go out and do something else without properly assessing your emotional state is just going to bust up later at night or in the morning when you wake up. This sounds obvious, but people rarely try to shut their phone off, close the computer and any other distraction to remain idle for just a few minutes. I’ve always told myself that we were never given the proper tools to manage our own mind in school. It’s okay since life has a way with all of us. Sometimes much later in life.
And so we ended up dancing to the rhythm of the 80’s at a bar. I made the conscious decision to make a fool out of myself with weird dance moves so that at least we all get a good laugh. Before I knew it my roommates jumped in like monkeys and it felt good to simply be. Giving someone space, to let them be, is probably the most powerful gift you can give to someone who wants to talk to you.