There are conflicts everywhere. The problem of problems is somehow always present. For example, I can have a good life, but maybe my peers don’t. And if they do, I can always turn to the newspaper for a listing of all the problems of the city… or the world. It makes me rethink of what a problem is. It’s easy to slander out a word without putting in any effort to really understand what it means. Our brain, has the ability to skip over information we already understand, but it makes sense to revisit certain fundamental concepts every now and then. In this case, I’m tempted to think that a problem is an internal disagreement between our idea of a thing, and what the world is providing us with. If there’s a mismatch, then our brain flags that as problem which translates to pain.
I have been thinking about anger lately. There’s certainly a lot of self-improvement literature that promotes positive thinking in it’s various forms. I’ve also noticed how averse society is to the subject. As I went on thinking though, I remembered going over this topic on several occasions among friends. It turned around our generation being too soft(there’s even a term for it, snowflake). We concluded that the incapacity to get angry came bundled with a tendency to apologize for just about anything one does and being personally offended at the slightest remark whilst staying mute.
It’s very interesting to see how my psyche has changed since the humble beginnings of my meditation practice four years ago. The practice has helped me in developing a hyper-awareness of physical reflexes that became an unforeseen benefit. This has helped me in great ways with sports as to regulate my breathing, my exertions and my facial expressions. Another visible example lies in most social interactions. I have noticed that whenever I have a slight moment of hesitation or that I am ashamed of my position I will break eye contact and move my locus of attention to the right and then go on a tangent that smooths out my story. I’ve come to the conclusion that I did not like taking specific positions because I was agreeable and that I had a tendency to avoid conflict. By understanding this pattern, by looking at physical cues; I can better assess and question my behavior to come up with corrective measures(A simple way to correct defective patterns will be the topic of my next article). Being neutral means that you never state the conditions for success… or failure! It’s in line with the classic adage that we cannot reach a target if we do not aim at it. And how many times have we been told to think before speaking? It has always been notoriously difficult to take a moment of reflexion before speaking up. That exciting angst that exists within us breaks out and gives us an arrogant and foul air. How are we to learn and understand someone if our conversations are oriented towards ourself?