Being the Magnet

Beautiful things don’t ask for attention.

The idea is pretty simple, if you want cool people to hang around you, you must give them a reason to do so. If you are a wall painting artist you naturally attract all sorts of creative people and also anyone who is amazed by such artistic endeavors.

In the same way, if you are involved at work, at clubs, have a hobby, you increase your exposure to life and people. IF there is one decent cure for illnesses such as depression and apathy, it is involvement. Through involvement we develop a sense of community, we gain a meaning, we give our life a purpose. Without resisting it, we eventually find ourselves waking up early on the weekends because we look forward to our day. And so the problem of waking up in the morning has solved itself. Our worries are gone because we deal with people who like us and we like them back. We are never bored. Isn’t that great?

So be interesting, so we can be interested. I will repeat that, be interesting and we will be interested! I tested this theory last month and I always had something to share. The life of a party is the average of each individual’s life. I wasn’t trying to get attention, people asked me what I was up to since we last met and I would simply put the facts in verbal form. I also sleep like a log. Because the days are full of events and interesting happenings.

Being an introvert is no excuse either. I saw book clubs composed of 4 or 5 members. I’ve done an arts class last winter and I hadn’t even spoken a single word. Everyone was concentrated on their art. There’s night classes too. The opportunities are limitless.

One final note though, I don’t show a desire to be interesting. To be honest, I prefer my own company. I like solitude, I love reading and drinking tea on my own or at a coffee shop. I’m okay either way. So make sure that if you do choose to involve yourself, try to find things that actually interest you. I made the mistake two years ago to pick up some dance classes for the wrong reasons and it was an experience filled with lamentations. It wasn’t a waste of time and I had heaps of fun, but I eventually started faking my attitude and that just doesn’t work in the long term.

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