Private Victories

In my teens I was quick to boast about my accomplishments. Winning a competition or talking about trips that I did was quickly followed by the idea of sharing it with everyone I knew.

With time I realized that it’s simpler to keep it private. Call it private victories. I don’t want the attention. Tranquility, or peace of mind, is so much sweeter. If someone has genuine interest then I can tell them how I did, or what it is I do, because they are asking this question with a receptive state of mind, it will be better for both of us.

With private victories, when you start a new hobby or anything that’s vaguely different and that may take you out of your comfort zone it will be easier to protect it. Because people don’t know; they won’t attack your idea. You won’t have to justify your actions. After a while you will gain that confidence that comes from consistent practice which also nurtures humbleness. That leads to not really having a desire to tell other people what you are about. If it comes to it, it’s okay, but it if doesn’t, you just keep doing what you do. And that’s fine too. That silent confidence expands into other areas of our life. We don’t have to tell people were great, we know we are.

It isn’t easy, especially if we’ve been taught to compete our whole life in school, at work and among our own siblings. The good news is, all it takes is to treat any small win by keeping it for ourself. This will allow us to build up on the habit of remaining cool when we are overly excited.

Although, if we do fall into excitement, let it be. No need to feel guilty, no one gets it perfectly the first time.

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